If It’s Not This, Then It’s Something Better

There’s a certain kind of heartbreak that comes from losing something unexpectedly. Whether it’s a job, a relationship, a dream, or an opportunity you were really excited about, it’s natural to feel thrown off balance. You might find yourself stuck in a swirl of disappointment, frustration, or confusion — asking why did this have to happen?

I’ve been there too. But over time, I’ve learned to come back to one simple phrase that has changed everything for me:

If it’s not this, then it’s something better.

At first, those words might sound like wishful thinking. But stay with me. Because what I’ve found — again and again — is that when something is ripped from your life, it’s not random. It’s making space. It’s clearing out what’s no longer aligned to create room for something better to come in. Something more supportive. More expansive. More you.

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Rewiring your brain to focus on the good even when you’re dealing with challenging situations that make you feel sad, angry, scared, or betrayed, is the ultimate skill to acquire. It doesn’t mean you won’t feel sad or any other dense emotion — it just means that the amount of time you spend feeling those heavy emotions gets shorter as your confidence in positive solutions on the horizon grows

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Your Mind Needs to Hear It

Your body might already know this truth. Deep down, your intuition often senses when something is no longer right for you. But your brain might need some convincing. That’s where this mantra becomes powerful—not just as a one-time reminder, but as a practice. A tool for rewiring your thought patterns.

Saying, “If it’s not this, then it’s something better,” teaches your mind to look forward instead of fixating on the loss. Over time, it starts to stick. It becomes your default response. You don’t have to work so hard to search for silver linings—they begin to show up naturally. You start expecting good things, even during hard times.

The Highs Get Longer, the Lows Get Shorter

Let’s be real: life will always have ups and downs. That’s not something we can eliminate—and we wouldn’t want to. But when you commit to the practice of shifting your mindset, something powerful happens. The low moments don’t last as long. They feel less consuming. And the high moments? They stretch out. They become more vibrant, more meaningful.

Because you’re not just surviving life’s twists and turns—you’re grounded in trust. You’re building a relationship with yourself and the universe that says, “I believe something better is always on the way.”

It’s a Practice, Not a Quick Fix

Rewiring your brain and regulating your nervous system takes consistency. It won’t click overnight. But the more you return to this mantra, the more it settles into your system like a calming anchor. It becomes a phrase you lean on in uncertain moments. A quiet reassurance during chaos.

If this relationship ended, something better is coming.
If that opportunity didn’t work out, something more aligned is making its way in.
If this door closes, a better one is about to open.

This isn’t about bypassing your feelings or ignoring the hard stuff. It’s about honoring what’s leaving while holding space for what’s next.

Everything Is Working Out For You

So if you’re in a season of loss or uncertainty right now, I hope you let these words be a balm to your nervous system:

If it’s not this, then it’s something better.

Repeat it. Believe it. Let it settle in. And trust that even in the letting go, you are moving toward more alignment, more clarity, and more ease.

You’re not starting over — you’re starting again, from a place of deeper trust.